Rishton Aur Dampatya Mein Badhti Dararein by Seema Sinha

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irStaoM AaOr damp%ya maoM baZ,tI draroM

Baart maoM Aaja BaI damp%ya TUTnaa [tnaa Aama nahIM hO‚ [sa baat pr hma gava- kr sakto hOM. ikntu Aajakla pirvaaraoM maoM draroM AvaSya AatI jaa rhI hOM‚ irSto kI jaD,aoM maoM KaoKlaapna Aa gayaa hO. damp%ya tqaa Anya pairvaairk irSto BaI BaaOitktavaad kI AMQaI daOD, ka iSakar hao rho hOM. Aba damp%ya BaI ATUT irStaoM maoM nahIM iganaa jaata‚ jaao ik phlao janma janmaantraoM ka irSta huAa krta qaa. pirvaaraoM AaOr damp%ya maoM vat-maana maoM Aato ibaKravaaoM ko pirp`oxya maoM Agar hma hmaaro BaartIya samaaja kI jaD,aoM tk jaayaoM tao kuC Ahma karNa hmaoM naja,r Aato hOM. ijanhoM dUr ikyao bagaOr hma damp%ya tqaa pairvaairk irStaoM maoM idna ba idna baZ,tI draraoM kao kma nahIM kr sakto.

sayauM@t pirvaaraoM ka ibaKrnaa damp%yaaoM maoM AatI draraoM ka ek karNa hO. saMyau@t pirvaaraoM maoM pit p%naI kao JagaD,o ka maaOka BaI nahIM imalata‚ ]sa pr pirvaar ko Anya sadsya Aapko damp%ya maoM kuSana ka kama krto hOM. vahaM JagaD,a damp%ya maoM Alagaava kI saImaa tk nahIM phuMca pata. saaqa hI Aapko AapsaI JagaD,aoM maoM baccao kaop ka Baajana nahIM banato‚ na vahaM JagaD,o baccaaoM kI vajah sao haoto. saMyau@t pirvaaraoM maoM maanaisak dbaava BaI baMT jaata hO. baccaaoM kI pZ,a[-‚ Gar pr ]nako Akolao CUTnao kI samasyaa‚ baccaaoM ko ima~aoM kI samasyaa Gar hI maoM saulaJa jaatI hO. SaoyairMga AaOr koyairMga tqaa eDjasTmaonT vao bacapna sao hI saIKnao lagato hOM AaOr ek dUsaro kao sahna krnao kI Aadt ]namaoM bacapna sao hI pD, jaatI hO. saMyau@t pirvaaraoM maoM kao[- na kao[- sadsya Aapkao samaJata hI hO tqaa Aap ApnaI samasyaaeM ]sasao baaMT laoto hao. saMyau@t pirvaaraoM ko saayao maoM damp%ya maoM drar nahIM Aa patI. vahaM naIMva maoM hI AapsaI irStaoM kI samaJa ivakisat kI jaatI hO.

vyastta AaOr pit p%naI daonaaoM ka Aaiqa-k $p sao svatn~ haonaa ek dUsarI Ahma\ vajah hO damp%ya tqaa Anya irStaoM maoM drar kI. Aajakla iksao va@t hO ik Aayao idna irStodairyaaM inaBaae…SaadI byaah‚ harI baImaarI‚ Saaok Aaid tao Aayao idna irStodarI maoM haoto hI rhto hOM‚ iktnaI Cu+I laI jaayaoÆ daonaaoM imayaaM baIvaI kmaanao maoM jauTo hOM‚ AaOr saaoca rho hOM ik vao Gar ko ilayao sauK jauTa rho hOM…eosao maoM vao sauivaQaa AvaSya jauTa laoM sauK nahIM jauTa sakto. daonaaoM ko pasa ek dUsaro kao samaJanao tqaa pasa baOznao ka samaya nahIM rhta‚ maSaIna kI trh daOD,to Baagato…ijasma BaI maSaIna haokr rh jaato hOM…BaavanaaAaoM kao kaOna saIMcaoÆ jahaÐ ek dUsaro sao ]mmaIdoM baZIM vahIM drar kI naaObat Aa[-. ifr Aaiqa-k $p sao daonaaoM svatn~ hOM tao tlaak maoM kOsaI ihcakÆ
ifr samaaja sao kT kr ekakI jaIvana ibatanao tk kI naaObat Aa jaatI hO. yauvaavasqaa maoM samaaja AaOr pirvaar kI Ahimayat Balao hI samaJa na Aayao ikntu ek vayasa ko baad Aapkao Apnao irStodaraoM AaOr samaaja kI ja,$rt pD,tI hI hO. baccaaoM ko ivavaah haoM yaa vaRwavasqaa maoM saamaaijak haonao kI caah…pirvaar AaOr irStodairyaaoM tqaa samaaja ka mah%va kma krko nahIM AaMka jaa sakta.

yaUM doKa jaayao tao p%naI ko kamakajaI haonao sao Aaya maoM bahut AiQak fk- nahIM pD,ta‚ vaao baat Alaga hO ik pirvaar maoM A%yaiQak ABaava hao AaOr p%naI ka kama krnaa AitAavaSyak hao. Aajakla tao jyaadatr maihlaaeM mahja Apnao rhna sahna sauivaQaajanak va AaQauinak banaanao ko ca@kr maoM kama krtI hOM. yahaÐ maOM bahut p`itBaaSaalaI AaOr Aitir@t $p sao bauiwmaana AaOr AcCo kOiryar vaalaI is~yaaoM kao Saaimala nahIM kr rhI…]naka jaIvana maoM ]_oSya hI Alaga haota hO…ikntu mahja qaaoD,a Aitir@t pOsaa kmaa laonao ko ca@kr maoM BaaOitktavaad kI AnQaI daOD, ko ca@kr maoM kao[- BaI kama pkD, laonao vaalaI maihlaaeM Gar kI Aaya maoM kao[- sahayata nahIM krtI bailk Apnao damp%ya ko ilayao na[- samasyaaeM KD,I kr laotI hOM.

[sa sandBa- maoM ek dUsaro pr inaBa-rta ka BaI p`Sna ]zta hO. jaba tk pit p%naI iksaI BaI str pr ek dUsaro pr inaBa-r haoto hOM…vao ek dUsaro ka K,yaala rKto hOM. jahaÐ yah inaBa-rta Aa%mainaBa-rta maoM badlaI vahaÐ CaoTI CaoTI baatoM BaI AsahnaIya hao jaatI hOM. Gar kI idnacayaa- AaOr saar saMBaala tqaa baccaaoM ko paoYaNa AaOr ivakasa pr BaI kamakajaI s~I kI vyast idnacayaa- ka p`Baava pD,ta hO. yah baat baad maoM mahsaUsa haotI hO…jaba Aap Apnao baccaaoM maoM Anya pirvaaraoM ko baccaaoM kI Apoxaa naOitk maUlyaaoM maoM kmaI pato hOM yaa Aap ]nako BaivaYya inamaa-Na maoM pOsaaoM ko Alaavaa kao[- Kasa yaaogadana nahIM do pato. yaa Aapko baccaaoM kao irStaoM kI Ahimayat maalaUma hI nahIM haotI…vao baahr Pyaar ZUMZnao lagato hOM.

sahnaSaIlata maoM kmaI AaOr QaOya- ka caukto jaanaa BaI damp%ya maoM baZ,tI draraoM kI ek Ahma vajah hO. sahnaSaIlata ko str maoM kmaI mahja damp%ya maoM hI nahIM pirvaaraoM irStaoM tqaa samaaja maoM hI Aa ga[- hO. kao[- iksaI kao bardaSt krnao yaa Jaolanao ko ilayao tOyaar nahIM. jabaik sahnaSaIlata AaOr QaOya- dao [tnao mah%va ko gauNa hOM ik ijanasao ibaKrto irStaoM kao majabaUt ikyaa jaa sakta hO. ijanasao baD,I sao baD,I samasyaa ka hla inakalaa jaa sakta hO. pr kao[- BaI phla krnao kao tOyaar nahIM haota…AaiKr svaaya<ata ka ja,maanaa jaao hO. Aajakla pit p%naI hI jaba ek dUsaro kI galaityaaM sahna nahIM kr pato tao Anya irStaoM kao sahnaa tao dUr kI baat hO.

po`ma Sabd ko badlato Aqa- AaOr p`oma maoM p`itbawta kI kmaI kI vajah sao BaI pirvaar AaOr damp%yaaoM maoM KTasa Aa jaatI hO. p`oma Aba Aai%mak str sao ]tr kr SaarIirk str pr Aa gayaa hO. [samaoM Baavanaa%makta kI kmaI Aa ga[- hO. ]sa pr samaya ka ABaava.

AiBavyai@tyaaM mahja tIna SabdaoM Aa[- lava yaU pr Aa iTkI hO. p`oma maoM ivaivaQata hI nahIM bacaI hO. saaqa ibatayao AcCo plaaoM kI jagah hI khaM bacaI hOÆ yahaÐ AavaSyakta hO ik ek dUsaro pr p`oma kI inaBa-rta eosaI hao ik daonaaoM ek dUsaro ko pUrk haoM. daonaaoM ek dUsaro kI Baavanaa%mak ja,$rtaoM kao samaJaoM…]sasao phlao svayaM kao samaJanao ka p`yaasa kroM ik Aap damp%ya ko AadSa- $p ko ilayao drAsala @yaa caahto hOM AaOr Aapka ]samaoM iktnaa yaaogadana hO. iksaI BaI irSto ko AadSa- sva$p kI klpnaa maoM Aap Apnaa yaaogadana phlao inaiScat kroM ifr saamanao vaalao sao kao[- Apoxaa kroM. Aap irSto kao ijatnaa saIMcaoMgao…prspr vah irSta ]tnaa hI p`gaaZ, haogaa. pr saIMcanao kI SauÉAat phlao Aap kroM ifr dUsaro sao Apoxaa kroM.

damp%ya AaOr pairvaairk irSto samaaja ko dao Ahma\ stmBa hOM‚ pirvaar AaOr damp%ya na[- pIZ,I ko ilayao AaQaar hO…ijasa pr ]saka BaivaYya iTka hO…AtÁ [naka majabaUt AaOr ATUT haonaa AitAavaSyak hO.

– saImaa isanha
ma[- 9‚ 2002